Flow Coach is the culmination of a 25-year journey of transformation and growth. It wasn't easy.
CHIEF EMPATHY OFFICER
Conventional Approaches Failed Me. That's When My Flow Journey Began
I've accomplished a lot of things in my life - writing four books, Ph.D. studies at Princeton, traveling to over 50 countries impacting thousands of people through my work - but what's remarkable for me is that 25 years ago doctors told me I shouldn't challenge myself.
I shouldn't push too hard. Shouldn't try to do too much with my life.
When I was 19 years old I had a breakdown.
I always said that I wouldn't end up like my Dad, and then I did.
Drinking too much, then doing lots of drugs.
I felt broken inside. Traumatized.
A year later my sister Katie committed suicide.
She was my only sibling, and we were very close.
I was devastated. Everything was falling apart.
I dropped out of college and went home to help my family.
Then the terrible panic and anxiety attacks began.
I couldn't even leave the house. Doctors told me I would have to take meds for the rest of my life. I shouldn't set unrealistic expectations for myself. I should accept my fate.
I had all of this trauma, these complex emotions and a drug problem.
The doctors said the solution was to give me more drugs.
Something about that felt deeply wrong.
That's when my real journey began.
I didn't want to take pills to dull the pain.
I wanted to work through it. I wanted to own my feelings and emotions.
I wanted to take back control of my mind from the things I internalized.
The comparisons and judgments to be like everyone else.
The never ending story that buying more stuff would make you happy.
I didn't want to be "normal" in a society optimized around greed, vanity, material possessions.
I knew that would never make me happy.
I knew that I was slowly dying inside trying to live a lie.
Trying to fit in wasn't the answer. It was the problem.
I wanted to awaken to my true nature, who I really was inside.
I began to believe all of that pain was a sign from my real self.
A sign to follow my heart.
To live with purpose and focus.
So I made a decision to heal myself and seek wisdom.